Help a Mate
STAND BESIDE HIM.
You do not need to fix him or have all the answers. Notice the change, make time, listen, help him take one useful step—and do not disappear.
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What if I am that mate?
Practical steps for your own hard season, plus words to help you reach out.
I Am That Mate →Start here
HOW TO STAND BESIDE A MATE.
This is the practical starting point for any man worried about someone he knows. It introduces the Men’s Mission STAND framework, words you can actually use, clear safety boundaries and the difference between supporting a man and rescuing or excusing him.
Read the guideArticles to use
ONE SITUATION AT A TIME.
Practical words, clear boundaries and a next step you can use. Each article now has a companion written directly to the man going through it.
Starting the conversation · 4 articles
What Do I Say When My Mate Says He’s Fine?
Keep the door open without turning a conversation into an interrogation.
Read article →What to Do When a Mate Won’t Get Help
Understand what is getting in the way, offer a workable first step and know when safety changes the response.
Read article →The 24 Hours After a Mate Says ‘I’m Not Okay’
Respond to the disclosure, attend to safety and agree what happens after the first conversation.
Read article →How Often Should You Check In?
Agree a rhythm that fits the situation and both people’s capacity, without making friendship a monitoring system.
Read article →The boundary
A MATE. NOT A COUNSELLOR.
This library will help ordinary men notice, ask, listen and act responsibly. It will not turn mates into amateur psychologists, lawyers or crisis workers.
Immediate risk always moves to emergency or qualified support. Violence is never excused. Privacy matters, but promises of secrecy do not come before safety.
Do not wait for another article. Call Triple Zero (000) if life is in danger, or open the urgent support page now.